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The Wrong Relationship Cause Of Health Problems

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The Remedy For MANY Hopeless Diseases!

I am rather bold to suggest that there is a total remedy to hopeless diseases!

But, I think there is!  It is NOT a pill!  There is no magic bullet!  There are even so-called reputable vitamin companies offering products to "treat" this problem.  Click Here for one of the most bold pushers of magic pills -- they use "fibromyalgia" as the hook to get you in the door, and just sell everything under the sun.  Many of these items may, in fact, be helpful, but if those who offer help do NOT recognize the "relationship connection" described below, then their failure rate will be high -- pushing the victims back into the clutches of psychiatric drugs.  After all, psychiatric drugs ALWAYS work -- because they are pushing you toward a state of insensibility and vegetable.  That is not hard to do. 

But, there is a logical plan you can follow.

This plan starts with data that might be very new to you -- the truth of the matter is that all diseases and illnesses, and every type of health problem has some sort of "relationship" problem that comes first. This wrong relationship could be right now, in present time, or it could have been many years ago.

I receive messages that show wrong relationships all the time.  Click here.

There is a relationship that causes you to be vulnerable to the invading bacteria.

There is a relationship that triggers the health problem -- whether or not you were previously vulnerable.

There is a relationship that makes the health problem stay with you despite usual and good treatments.  In other words, there are "relationship reasons" why some vitamin or treatment may not work for you while it works for many others.

This is a universal truth about health -- you have the explanation on these "relationships" here!

What is a "relationship problem?"

First, it is a connection between YOU and another person who is generally very close to you.  It could be with a group of others, but usually it is ONE person.  This person is NOT a stranger.  Most often it is a member of your family -- your spouse, your parent, your child, your boss, your best friend, a neighbor.  It could be someone else, but whoever it is, this person is one who you know quite well and who you probably see on a regular basis. 

It is not unusual, however, that this wrong relationship existed many years ago -- then there will be someone in today's environment who reminds you of that person.  You had an abusive spouse, 20 years ago, and got a divorce 18 years ago.  The abusive spouse had a particular personality, or appearance, or whatever.  He is long gone from your life, but there is SOMEONE in your life, right now, who reminds you of that earlier guy.

The first type, the abusive person is present in your life right now? That one is usually easy to spot.  If you don't find that one with ease, then it gets a bit harder, but you'll find someone or something that reminds you of the earlier wrong relationship.

There is a third situation -- beyond the scope of my advice here, where "everyone" reminds you of the bad guy.  You can't spot that usually -- but need very gentle treatment.

When the person is in your present life, he is not a stranger!  You have some agreements with this person -- based on a handshake, or formal contract, but most often unwritten and understood.

You just don't spit on the living room floor of his house -- it is understood.

There are AGREEMENTS between you and this person -- usually unspoken, but at some time you shared a common moral code on something that was important to both of you.  I have an entire web site on a common sense moral code.  This code really applies to all people, whether they are aware of it or not.  If someone close to you is violating one or more parts of this moral code, YOU will be the one to get sick. This is serious business.  I urge you, if this might apply to you, to CLICK HERE and spend some hours browsing through that web site.  http://www.happinessonline.org

When that person, the one who is violating that moral code, is doing something directly to harm you, that is the most direct and easy to see.  He is telling you that you are a "worthless person." This would be a very common type of action by him/her from which YOU get sick.

The invalidation you experience could have happened years ago. You were very "strong" and did not get sick then. But, your immune system started going down.  It could be years before some chance encounter with some bacteria -- and you are suddenly sick -- and you can die.  The "wrong relationship" could have been some years ago.

You have a relationship with this person.  That relationship now has something "wrong" with it, and that "wrongness" is actually the initial cause of your health problem.  The wrongness means that there is less communication between you, or that the communication is now strained.

In other words, if you DID NOT have this relationship (and had no other "wrong relationships") you would stay pretty healthy, would not fall prey to any wandering bacteria, and when you did get the sniffles, you would respond quickly to the usual treatments.

What is wrong about this relationship?

The other person is, first of all, doing something that violates YOUR sense of right and wrong.  It is a matter of "morals."

Your granddaughter is away in college.  At first you saw her every weekend. She is the darling of your eye!  You and she were very close.  Gradually you realize that college is "changing her!"  Finally you awake one morning realizing that you cannot hide this change from yourself any longer -- your granddaughter is on drugs and having sex with many different men!  (Use of drugs and alcohol by a loved one are very common causes of these "wrong relationships."  Click HERE for that moral code web site.)

This is a "triggering" realization.  If you didn't know anything about it, it probably would not affect you.  But, you begin to suspect. She doesn't visit as often as she had previously. She casually mentions some of this new behavior (testing your acceptance), notes your raised eyebrow, and says no more about it.  She makes little critical remarks about your home, and eventually even about you!  She'll start these critical remarks when talking with others -- she may never tell you these things to your face.  She is making those critical remarks because she really wants to justify not seeing you -- for fear that you will discover more of what she is doing.  She knows it is wrong, and she doesn't want you to know.  She may have even convinced herself that her behavior is NOT wrong, but is OK!  But, even so she knows that YOU would disapprove.  You find out, just a suspicion of something.  You might even ask her!  That causes more withdrawal on her part, and YOU GET SICK!

You get sick because SHE is violating your moral code!  It is NOT your violation of any code, but hers.  You are likely, first, to just become unhappy, but that turns into a health problem.

Perhaps you have an abusive spouse!   That will sure make you ill!  You'll be unhappy first, perhaps depressed and get the psychiatric drug.  But, it may move forward into a very real disease or health problem.

Cancer, in fact, is very often an indication that there is a terribly wrong relationship between a husband and wife!  Usually the type of wrong relationship is that one of them (or both) is cheating on the other!  Such a sexual transgression in marriage cannot be kept secret easily.  It leads to the one being cheated on getting sick.  Often it would be "depression" (naturally) and the quick remedy is a psychiatric drug. The obviously correct remedy is to handle the cheating spouse or disengage from him or her.  The disengagement is often not easy, often not even possible, so you go on living with a terrible relationship and you develop one or more debilitating health problems.  Sexual transgressions in a marriage often lead, eventually, to cancer in one or both.

You are an accountant by training.  You are young.  You go to work for  Enron.  For many years you have no idea of the accounting scandals that will, one day, dive your company into bankruptcy.  One day you see something "wrong."  At first you think it is just a mistake.  You comment to someone -- they agree it must be a mistake. 

You go about your work.  You do well, you get promoted.

You see some more "mistakes" but now they look different. They look somehow deliberate!

You still decide that some senior person must understand these things better than you do, and they are "OK!"  After all, they earn the big bucks, and they must have a better understanding!  Not so??

One day you realize that there is really something wrong.  At that moment, and perhaps even earlier, your company, or some of your fellow accountants, has deviated from standard accounting practice.  The accounting standards that you learned in college?  Yes!  They don't seem to apply "here."  Well, there must be some explanation?  It would be too dramatic to say that the situation involves some moral corruption!  No!  Not yet!

The Enron and many other corporate scandals are covered in detail in that moral code web site -=- CLICK HERE.

But, within a few more weeks or months of this time, you may well become sick.  You won't have any clue as to why you are sick, but you are.  You recover.

You continue to see these accounting irregularities.  People even ask you about these things and you decide that you had better not talk about them??

You get sicker.

Your company has violated YOUR moral code.  When you got hired you got a "lecture" by the guy who said, "Oh yes!  We follow standard accounting rules here!"  You get sick.  They broke the rules.

That's the rule!

You contributed to the death of ethics and morality in your area?  You are now violating the moral code and agreement that you, and your company have with your stock holders.  They find out about this, then get sick.

You get sick.

And, so it goes.

Has something like this happened to you??

It may take several years for the disease to manifest -- after the wrong behavior has been noticed.

YOUR health problem is caused, initially, by a transgression of a moral code by another person!  It can be further aggravated by your contributing to the moral transgression!

Here you have the cause of the vulnerability you have toward any wandering bacteria, or a small bite of bad food! 

If you didn't have any "wrong relationship" problem, that wandering bug would be easily handled by your immune system, or that bite of bad food would just not cause any problem. This "wrong relationship" makes you vulnerable.  You could go on for a long time, years, this way, without getting really sick -- if you are a very strong person and do good things for your health.

But, you are vulnerable!  You are walking around at risk!  The immune system may be one of the first things that "goes bad," and you wouldn't even notice this.  You only notice when you "catch that bug."  Even if you KNOW that your immune system is in trouble, fixing it with some immune system booster won't work very well if you haven't handled, first, the "wrong relationship."

Perhaps you suspect that your husband is cheating!  You are vulnerable!  Then you notice lipstick on his cheek!  That might be just enough to move you from being vulnerable to being sick. This is a triggering incident!

Then this "sickness" may usually be treatable by some standard method -- but YOU don't respond to the standard treatment -- because this moral transgression is continuing and it is THAT moral transgression which makes the treatment not work, or to work slowly.

The "wrong relationship" is vital to understand -- it is universal in application to the understanding of health problems.

It would not be unusual for you to refuse to see it when it is right in front of your face!

Happy families are healthy families.  If you see a sick baby, you know the parents are fighting!  They are breaking society's moral code that you should raise children in a loving and happy home!

I have found this to be SO true, and so vital, that I have an entire web site devoted to helping people spot the type of behavior which the "other person" is engaging in -- the behavior that makes YOU sick.  Visit www.happinessonline.org and see what that is all about.

On that site you will find this first page:


Topics Of Current Interest In Society

You belong on this page if you are aware of the growing moral drift in America.  In particular you belong on this page if you see the turmoil in our society because of "sex" and "drugs or alcohol."

If you are aware of these areas as containing problems for our society, then you will find these pages of great interest and value to you.  We, many of us, worry about "the Middle East" or "heart disease," or whatever we worry about. But there are moral issues that are also extremely important and part of the problem in this area is that a large number of people don't even see the problems in these areas.

It is almost as if a large hunk of society has become insensitive to the moral outrages which another hunk of our society sees, only too clearly.

Possibly one of the greatest divisions in society is between that group who sees nothing wrong with the sex, alcohol and drug behavior that is so common in certain other sectors of society -- and another group that sees these problems clearly even if they wring their hands in desperation that nothing is being done about them.

Are we like the monkeys?  Speak no evil, see no evil and hear no evil!  When it is all around!

There is a growing awareness of "moral drift" in America -- and most other countries.  If you don't think so, but are willing to read here, I think you'll become convinced.  If you DO see the moral drift in our society, then you'll find material to reinforce that, but even more importantly to take you onto the next step.

The next step?

You should realize that man seldom sees the faults in himself -- but sees them clearly in others. That is OK, because that is the way this web site works.  We examine the moral drift "over there."    We have a solution for "over there," and in the process "right here" will be better too.

This web site examines two of these "over there" areas:  "sex" and "drugs or alcohol."

He! That Guy Over There!  He Did It!

This web site also has an extensive section on Child Abuse.  Many of these wrong relationships were when you were a child and one or both of your parents abused you.  It happens.  Click Here and read the section on child abuse -- find out how the parents of Danielle van Dam are ALSO guilty, as Westerfield was found guilty. The parents have escaped the finding of guilt, but their "wife swapping" and "sex swinging" life style assured that Danielle would have a terrible life -- they are guilty of child abuse.  She, Danielle, get sick because her parents violated many moral laws.

The next step for you on this web site is to learn, if you have not already realized it, that the morals problem "over there" can and does affect you "here."  It may come as a new thought to you that the destructive moral behavior around you can actually cause illness and upset in YOUR life.  Perhaps you already knew that?  In any event, this web site takes you into and through that concept.

Then, when you can be aware of the moral problems around you, particularly related to sex and drugs & alcohol, and that these problems can adversely affect you -- THEN, you are ready for the next step -- the solution. This is NOT a web site that just wrings its hands in silent apathy, but instead this is a web site that enthusiastically brings you a solution for these problems -- a solution that you can become a part of without much effort, and with no danger at all.

There is a book that is offered on that web site for free -- a book of such common sense approaches to moral issues that it fills a void that badly needed to be filled.  If you like what you read here, and see the hope for man in bringing some calmness to these areas of turmoil, then you may want to get your free copies of the book.

If you read more you will even find a place where the author, Karl Loren, promises to personally answer any personal message you send him.  You can, indeed, even ask him for advice or opinions on moral questions you might have.  I even offer to act as a "moral counselor" and listen, and advise -- but you must get that free book, and read it, first.  That book, and its common sense moral code, are the framework by which my advice is given.

This web site brings you references to a common sense moral code -- one that you can follow, and encourage others to follow.  I don't think you'll find anything in this moral code you can disagree with!  You'll say, "My goodness!  This is so basic, and so RIGHT!"  As you read through this web site, you'll see actual excerpts from this moral code, and you can even send an eMail to get two free copies of the book that presents all of this moral code.  This is a non commercial web site -- offering only information about this non-denominational common sense moral code.

 

Click on one of the five subjects below -- to start your tour.

 

Moral Drift!

SEX!

Drugs & Drink

Infectious Greed

Child Abuse


On that web site you'll find an offer of a free book.  Fill in the form and I'll send you this free book to help you understand this "wrong relationship" business better.  I am also a "morals counselor" and if you send me a message FROM THAT WEB SITE, you can ask me for personal advise on a situation involving some non-optimum condition of morality.

Come visit me on that web site!


You may not think there are any "wrong relationships" in your life -- perhaps not very close to you.  But, the neighbor who cheats on HIS wife, or the kid down the street who is dealing drugs in school?  These may be "close enough" to you to affect your health.  The world is full of many people who are behaving in unethical ways  -- they are the downfall of society itself, but "society" is made up of individuals, and it is the individual who is affected, one at a time, and who becomes sick.

How about that "lady" that smokes a lot and plays cards rather than clean house?  You hardly know HER, but know OF her!  It disturbs YOU, and YOU get sick!  It doesn't seem fair!

MILLIONS of Africans are dieing every year from AIDS.  AIDS is a problem in relationships, not a problem of some virus!

The statistics indicate what few officials are willing to admit: that this region [Africa] faces a crisis of shattered mores, where sexuality is no longer guided by traditional norms. In an environment where old rules have clashed with, or been eclipsed by, rapid social change, African men are killing themselves - and their women and children - with sex.   (source)

For their part, religious leaders throughout sub-Saharan Africa have been mostly silent about the epidemic, despite the obvious role they could play in addressing behavior, counseling, and caring for orphans. Bishop Sikongo in Rundu says part of the reason is condoms. The Roman Catholic Church, for example, won't advocate condoms because they interfere with conception, and because such a stance might appear to be condoning types of sexual behavior that do not conform with church doctrine. Not knowing how else to respond, Sikongo said, his brethren have done nothing. (source)

Your immune system, as in Africa today, can be badly compromised by wrong relationships.  That cause isn't being looked at very much, but it is very senior to any other causative factor.

You can increase your immunity to sickness by cleaning up any of these wrong relationships in your life.  You can improve your health with vitamins, etc., but this that I now tell you is of senior importance.  This is so important that we, at Vibrant Life, refuse to sell any of our products to anyone taking a psychiatric drug.  In those cases there is ONE PERSON, the doctor who prescribes the drug, who is breaking his Hippocratic Oath (by giving you harmful drugs) and that behavior, along with the drug, will cause you to become sicker and sicker.   Vitamins from Vibrant Life cannot help much in such situations.

There is more to my Fibromyalgia Remedy.


Here is one of the many exposes of psychiatry.  This is where you learn that psychiatrists have invented a new disease -- called a "relational disorder."  The truth about "wrong relationships" is on this page.  The terrible evil that would arise from saying that a "wrong relationship" is caused by some sort of chemical imbalance in the brain -- that evil is immeasurable.  If you go this psychiatric direction, you will, I guarantee, have wrong relationships and more illness!


TIME MAGAZINE
September 16, 2002 Vol. 160 No. 12

I'm O.K. You're O.K. We're Not O.K.
Some psychiatrists want to start treating "relational disorders." Are they nuts?

 

There is still only one way to be sane — enjoy your friends, family, faith and job — but every year there are new ways to be crazy. Like the automobile industry, which once sold only sedans and station wagons but now offers endless variations on the SUV (including two versions of the Hummer), the American Psychiatric Association now has an illness for almost every lifestyle. The current edition of its professional bible, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders IV, contains — among scores of other diagnoses — a long list of specialized labels for a condition that was known in my grandmother's era as the jitters, including Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder, Social Phobia, Panic Disorder with Agoraphobia, and Panic Disorder Without Agoraphobia.

Given so many maladies to choose from, a person who can't find at least one of his problems covered somewhere in DSM-IV must have something really wrong with him. Unless, that is, his problem is someone else — a child, mate or parent, say. Until recently, being driven mad by others and driving others mad was known as life. It didn't have a name — at least not a medically sanctioned name that could be listed on insurance forms and used in advertisements for pharmaceuticals.

The big news in psychiatry is that this may change. Some powerful practitioners, according to a story that broke in the Washington Post last week, are lobbying for official recognition of a new and controversial category of mental illness: Relational Disorders. Dr. Michael First, associate professor of psychiatry at Columbia University and one of the principal figures behind the push, puts the case for the novel diagnosis this way: "There is evidence that relationships and how people interact in particular relationships can be disordered in a way that's very similar to mental disorders."

That people can make each other nuts — and sometimes seriously, violently nuts — is not a new discovery. My grandmother knew it, and my grandpa too, which is why he kept his power tools in the basement. Still, scientific protocol demands that whenever doctors set out to repackage a perennial human sorrow as a modern, billable disease, they have to act as if they are on to something big. How else could chronic sleepiness have become Primary Hypersomnia?

The process of designating new mental disorders by pretending to misplace everyday experience and then trip over it in the laboratory is easy to satirize, but it has high stakes. If Relational Disorders exist (let's say they do) and doctors or drugs can make them go away (let's say they can, though heaven only knows), then a DSM listing is required or the insurance companies won't pay for treatment. Even with the listing, they are sure to grumble about it. Shelling out for even one-twentieth of the cases of "persistent and painful feelings, behavior and perception involving two or more partners in an important personal relationship" (the proposed definition) could drain the Treasury in about 24 hours.

What makes the proposed diagnosis controversial, aside from the possibility that it could be applied to every living American, is the question of how the "patient" will be defined. A relationship can't make an appointment. Only the individuals in it can. But if only one of them shows up at the clinic, how do you effectively treat the relationship? And if they both come, what if only one feels poorly? For First and his like-minded colleagues, these are sticky issues but solvable ones. They point out that psychiatry deals every day with similar dilemmas and ambiguities. "To me," says First, "the bottom line is treating people. If this is something that can improve people's lives, that's worth the conceptual murkiness."

When a psychiatric disorder makes its debut, patients and doctors join the ticket line first, but eventually the lawyers queue up too. That's when the trouble tends to start. For America's attorneys, who might be said to specialize already in Relational Disorders — in creating them and making them worse — the prospect of such a fuzzy diagnosis must look like a row of cherries on a slot machine. By clouding the notion of personal responsibility even as the classification opens up vast new realms of mutual and collective liability, RD, as it will inevitably be referred to on daytime-TV talk shows, may generate even more in legal fees and damage awards than in insurance reimbursements.

Whatever happens, it won't happen right away. DSM-V will not be published before 2010, giving us plenty of time to ponder the wisdom of formally recognizing a new disease that people can prevent only by living alone in locked rooms that don't have telephones. Maybe the first Relational Disorder that we should be concerned about is the one between psychiatry and the public.

 

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