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The Wrong Relationship Cause Of Health Problems

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The Remedy For
MANY Hopeless Diseases!
I
am rather bold to suggest that there is a total remedy to hopeless
diseases!
But, I think there is! It is NOT
a pill! There is no magic bullet! There are even so-called
reputable vitamin companies offering products to "treat" this
problem.
Click Here for one of the most bold pushers of magic pills --
they use "fibromyalgia" as the hook to get you in the door, and just
sell everything under the sun. Many of these items may, in fact, be
helpful, but if those who offer help do NOT recognize the
"relationship connection" described below, then their failure rate
will be high -- pushing the victims back into the clutches of
psychiatric drugs. After all, psychiatric drugs ALWAYS work --
because they are pushing you toward a state of insensibility and
vegetable. That is not hard to do.
But, there is a logical plan you
can follow.
This plan starts with data that
might be very new to you -- the truth of the matter is that all
diseases and illnesses, and every type of health problem has some
sort of "relationship" problem that comes first. This wrong
relationship could be right now, in present time, or it could have
been many years ago.
I receive messages that show wrong
relationships all the time.
Click here.
There is a relationship that
causes you to be vulnerable to the invading bacteria.
There is a relationship that
triggers the health problem -- whether or not you were previously
vulnerable.
There is a relationship that makes
the health problem stay with you despite usual and good treatments.
In other words, there are "relationship reasons" why some vitamin or
treatment may not work for you while it works for many others.
This is a universal truth about
health -- you have the explanation on these "relationships" here!
What is a "relationship problem?"
First,
it is a connection between YOU and another person who is generally
very close to you. It could be with a group of others, but usually
it is ONE person. This person is NOT a stranger. Most often it is
a member of your family -- your spouse, your parent, your child,
your boss, your best friend, a neighbor. It could be someone else,
but whoever it is, this person is one who you know quite well and
who you probably see on a regular basis.
It is not unusual, however, that
this wrong relationship existed many years ago -- then there will be
someone in today's environment who reminds you of that person. You
had an abusive spouse, 20 years ago, and got a divorce 18 years
ago. The abusive spouse had a particular personality, or
appearance, or whatever. He is long gone from your life, but there
is SOMEONE in your life, right now, who reminds you of that earlier
guy.
The first type, the abusive person
is present in your life right now? That one is usually easy to
spot. If you don't find that one with ease, then it gets a bit
harder, but you'll find someone or something that reminds you of the
earlier wrong relationship.
There is a third situation --
beyond the scope of my advice here, where "everyone" reminds you of
the bad guy. You can't spot that usually -- but need very gentle
treatment.
When the person is in your present
life, he is not a stranger! You have some agreements with this
person -- based on a handshake, or formal contract, but most often
unwritten and understood.
You just don't spit on the living
room floor of his house -- it is understood.
There are AGREEMENTS between you
and this person -- usually unspoken, but at some time you shared a
com mon
moral code on something that was important to both of you. I have
an entire web site on a common sense moral code. This code really
applies to all people, whether they are aware of it or not. If
someone close to you is violating one or more parts of this moral
code, YOU will be the one to get sick. This is serious business. I
urge you, if this might apply to you, to
CLICK HERE
and spend some hours browsing through that web site.
http://www.happinessonline.org
When that person, the one who is
violating that moral code, is doing something directly to harm you,
that is the most direct and easy to see. He is telling you that you
are a "worthless person." This would be a very common type of action
by him/her from which YOU get sick.
The invalidation you experience
could have happened years ago. You were very "strong" and did not
get sick then. But, your immune system started going down. It could
be years before some chance encounter with some bacteria -- and you
are suddenly sick -- and you can die. The "wrong relationship"
could have been some years ago.
You have a relationship with this
person. That relationship now has something "wrong" with it, and
that "wrongness" is actually the initial cause of your health
problem. The wrongness means that there is less communication
between you, or that the communication is now strained.
In other words, if you DID NOT
have this relationship (and had no other "wrong relationships") you
would stay pretty healthy, would not fall prey to any wandering
bacteria, and when you did get the sniffles, you would respond
quickly to the usual treatments.
What is wrong about this
relationship?
The other person is, first of all,
doing something that violates YOUR sense of right and wrong. It is
a matter of "morals."
Your
granddaughter is away in college. At first you saw her every
weekend. She is the darling of your eye! You and she were very
close. Gradually you realize that college is "changing her!"
Finally you awake one morning realizing that you cannot hide this
change from yourself any longer -- your granddaughter is on drugs
and having sex with many different men! (Use of drugs and alcohol
by a loved one are very common causes of these "wrong
relationships."
Click
HERE for that moral code web site.)
This is a
"triggering" realization. If you didn't know anything about it,
it probably would not affect you. But, you begin to suspect. She
doesn't visit as often as she had previously. She casually
mentions some of this new behavior (testing your acceptance),
notes your raised eyebrow, and says no more about it. She makes
little critical remarks about your home, and eventually even about
you! She'll start these critical remarks when talking with others
-- she may never tell you these things to your face. She is
making those critical remarks because she really wants to justify
not seeing you -- for fear that you will discover more of what she
is doing. She knows it is wrong, and she doesn't want you to
know. She may have even convinced herself that her behavior is
NOT wrong, but is OK! But, even so she knows that YOU would
disapprove. You find out, just a suspicion of something. You
might even ask her! That causes more withdrawal on her part, and
YOU GET SICK!
You get sick
because SHE is violating your moral code! It is NOT your
violation of any code, but hers. You are likely, first, to just
become unhappy, but that turns into a health problem.
Perhaps
you have an abusive spouse! That will sure make you ill! You'll
be unhappy first, perhaps depressed and get the psychiatric drug.
But, it may move forward into a very real disease or health problem.
Cancer, in fact, is very often an
indication that there is a terribly wrong relationship between a
husband and wife! Usually the type of wrong relationship is that
one of them (or both) is cheating on the other! Such a sexual
transgression in marriage cannot be kept secret easily. It leads to
the one being cheated on getting sick. Often it would be
"depression" (naturally) and the quick remedy is a psychiatric drug.
The obviously correct remedy is to handle the cheating spouse or
disengage from him or her. The disengagement is often not easy,
often not even possible, so you go on living with a terrible
relationship and you develop one or more debilitating health
problems. Sexual transgressions in a marriage often lead,
eventually, to cancer in one or both.
You
are an accountant by training. You are young. You go to work
for Enron. For many years you have no idea of the accounting
scandals that will, one day, dive your company into bankruptcy.
One day you see something "wrong." At first you think it is just
a mistake. You comment to someone -- they agree it must be a
mistake.
You go about
your work. You do well, you get promoted.
You see some
more "mistakes" but now they look different. They look somehow
deliberate!
You still decide
that some senior person must understand these things better than
you do, and they are "OK!" After all, they earn the big bucks,
and they must have a better understanding! Not so??
One day you
realize that there is really something wrong. At that moment, and
perhaps even earlier, your company, or some of your fellow
accountants, has deviated from standard accounting practice. The
accounting standards that you learned in college? Yes! They
don't seem to apply "here." Well, there must be some
explanation? It would be too dramatic to say that the situation
involves some moral corruption! No! Not yet!
The Enron and
many other corporate scandals are covered in detail in that moral
code web site -=-
CLICK HERE.
But, within a
few more weeks or months of this time, you may well become sick.
You won't have any clue as to why you are sick, but you are. You
recover.
You
continue to see these accounting irregularities. People even ask
you about these things and you decide that you had better not talk
about them??
You get sicker.
Your company has
violated YOUR moral code. When you got hired you got a "lecture"
by the guy who said, "Oh yes! We follow standard accounting rules
here!" You get sick. They broke the rules.
That's the rule!
You contributed
to the death of ethics and morality in your area? You are now
violating the moral code and agreement that you, and your company
have with your stock holders. They find out about this, then get
sick.
You get sick.
And, so it goes.
Has something
like this happened to you??
It may take several years for the
disease to manifest -- after the wrong behavior has been noticed.
YOUR health problem is caused,
initially, by a transgression of a moral code by another person! It
can be further aggravated by your contributing to the moral
transgression!
Here you have the cause of the
vulnerability you have toward any wandering bacteria, or a small
bite of bad food!
If
you didn't have any "wrong relationship" problem, that wandering bug
would be easily handled by your immune system, or that bite of bad
food would just not cause any problem. This "wrong relationship"
makes you vulnerable. You could go on for a long time, years, this
way, without getting really sick -- if you are a very strong person
and do good things for your health.
But, you are vulnerable! You are
walking around at risk! The immune system may be one of the first
things that "goes bad," and you wouldn't even notice this. You only
notice when you "catch that bug." Even if you KNOW that your immune
system is in trouble, fixing it with some immune system booster
won't work very well if you haven't handled, first, the "wrong
relationship."
Perhaps
you suspect that your husband is cheating! You are vulnerable!
Then you notice lipstick on his cheek! That might be just enough to
move you from being vulnerable to being sick. This is a triggering
incident!
Then this "sickness" may usually
be treatable by some standard method -- but YOU don't respond to the
standard treatment -- because this moral transgression is continuing
and it is THAT moral transgression which makes the treatment not
work, or to work slowly.
The "wrong relationship" is vital
to understand -- it is universal in application to the understanding
of health problems.
It would not be unusual for you to
refuse to see it when it is right in front of your face!
Happy
families are healthy families. If you see a sick baby, you know the
parents are fighting! They are breaking society's moral code that
you should raise children in a loving and happy home!
I have found this to be SO true,
and so vital, that I have an entire web site devoted to helping
people spot the type of behavior which the "other person" is
engaging in -- the behavior that makes YOU sick. Visit
www.happinessonline.org and see what that is all about.
On that site you will find this
first page:
You belong on this page if you are aware of the
growing moral drift in America. In particular you belong on this
page if you see the turmoil in our society because of "sex" and
"drugs or alcohol."
If you are aware of these areas as containing
problems for our society, then you will find these pages of great
interest and value to you. We, many of us, worry about "the Middle
East" or "heart disease," or whatever we worry about. But there are
moral issues that are also extremely important and part of the
problem in this area is that a large number of people don't even see
the problems in these areas.
It is almost as if a large hunk of society has
become insensitive to the moral outrages which another hunk of our
society sees, only too clearly.
Possibly one of the greatest divisions in
society is between that group who sees nothing wrong with the sex,
alcohol and drug behavior that is so common in certain other sectors
of society -- and another group that sees these problems clearly
even if they wring their hands in desperation that nothing is being
done about them.
Are we like the monkeys?
Speak no evil, see no evil and hear no evil! When it
is all around!
There is a growing awareness of "moral
drift" in America -- and most other countries. If you don't
think so, but are willing to read here, I think you'll become
convinced. If you DO see the moral drift in our society, then
you'll find material to reinforce that, but even more importantly to
take you onto the next step.
The next step?
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You should realize that man seldom sees the
faults in himself -- but sees them clearly in others. That is
OK, because that is the way this web site works. We examine the
moral drift "over there." We have a solution for "over
there," and in the process "right here" will be better too. |
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This web site examines two of these "over
there" areas: "sex"
and "drugs
or alcohol." |
He! That Guy
Over There! He Did It! |
This web site also has an extensive section on
Child Abuse. Many of these wrong relationships were when you were a
child and one or both of your parents abused you. It happens.
Click Here and read the section on child abuse -- find out how the
parents of Danielle van Dam are ALSO guilty, as Westerfield was
found guilty. The parents have escaped the finding of guilt, but
their "wife swapping" and "sex swinging" life style assured that
Danielle would have a terrible life -- they are guilty of child
abuse. She, Danielle, get sick because her parents violated many
moral laws.
The
next step for you on this web site is to learn, if you have not
already realized it, that the morals problem "over there" can and
does affect you "here." It may come as a new thought to you that
the destructive moral behavior around you can actually cause illness
and upset in YOUR life. Perhaps you already knew that? In any
event, this web site takes you into and through that concept.
Then, when you can be aware of the moral
problems around you, particularly related to sex and drugs &
alcohol, and that these problems can adversely affect you -- THEN,
you are ready for the next step -- the solution. This is NOT a web
site that just wrings its hands in silent apathy, but instead this
is a web site that enthusiastically brings you a solution for these
problems -- a solution that you can become a part of without much
effort, and with no danger at all.
There is a book that is offered on that web
site for free -- a book of such common sense approaches to moral
issues that it fills a void that badly needed to be filled. If you
like what you read here, and see the hope for man in bringing some
calmness to these areas of turmoil, then you may want to get your
free copies of the book.
If you read more you will even find a place
where the author, Karl Loren, promises to personally answer any
personal message you send him. You can, indeed, even ask him for
advice or opinions on moral questions you might have. I even offer
to act as a "moral counselor" and listen, and advise -- but you must
get that free book, and read it, first. That book, and its common
sense moral code, are the framework by which my advice is given.
This web
site brings you references to a common sense moral code -- one
that you can follow, and encourage others to follow. I don't think
you'll find anything in this moral code you can disagree with!
You'll say, "My goodness! This is so basic,
and so RIGHT!" As you read through this web site, you'll see
actual excerpts from this moral code, and you can even send an eMail
to get two free copies of the book that presents all of this moral
code. This is a non commercial web site -- offering only
information about this non-denominational common sense moral code.

Click on one of the five subjects below -- to
start your tour.
Moral Drift!
SEX!
Drugs & Drink
Infectious Greed
Child Abuse
On that web site you'll find an
offer of a free book. Fill in the form and I'll send you this free
book to help you understand this "wrong relationship" business
better. I am also a "morals counselor" and if you send me a message
FROM THAT WEB SITE, you can ask me for personal advise on a
situation involving some non-optimum condition of morality.
Come visit me on that web site!
You
may not think there are any "wrong relationships" in your life --
perhaps not very close to you. But, the neighbor who cheats on HIS
wife, or the kid down the street who is dealing drugs in school?
These may be "close enough" to you to affect your health. The world
is full of many people who are behaving in unethical ways -- they
are the downfall of society itself, but "society" is made up of
individuals, and it is the individual who is affected, one at a
time, and who becomes sick.
How about that "lady" that smokes
a lot and plays cards rather than clean house? You hardly know HER,
but know OF her! It disturbs YOU, and YOU get sick! It doesn't
seem fair!
MILLIONS of Africans are dieing
every year from AIDS. AIDS is a problem in relationships, not a
problem of some virus!
The statistics indicate
what few officials are willing to admit: that this region
[Africa]
faces a crisis of shattered mores, where sexuality is no longer
guided by traditional norms. In an environment where old rules
have clashed with, or been eclipsed by, rapid social change,
African men are killing themselves - and their women and
children - with sex. (source)
For their part, religious
leaders throughout sub-Saharan Africa have been mostly silent
about the epidemic, despite the obvious role they could play in
addressing behavior, counseling, and caring for orphans. Bishop
Sikongo in Rundu says part of the reason is condoms. The Roman
Catholic Church, for example, won't advocate condoms because
they interfere with conception, and because such a stance might
appear to be condoning types of sexual behavior that do not
conform with church doctrine. Not knowing how else to respond,
Sikongo said, his brethren have done nothing. (source)

Your immune system, as in Africa
today, can be badly compromised by wrong relationships. That cause
isn't being looked at very much, but it is very senior to any other
causative factor.
You can increase your immunity to
sickness by cleaning up any of these wrong relationships in your
life. You can improve your health with vitamins, etc., but this
that I now tell you is of senior importance. This is so important
that we, at Vibrant Life,
refuse to sell any of our products to anyone taking a
psychiatric drug. In those cases there is ONE PERSON, the doctor
who prescribes the drug, who is breaking his Hippocratic Oath (by
giving you harmful drugs) and that behavior, along with the drug,
will cause you to become sicker and sicker. Vitamins from Vibrant
Life cannot help much in such situations.
There is more to my Fibromyalgia Remedy.
Here is one of the many exposes of
psychiatry. This is where you learn that psychiatrists have
invented a new disease -- called a "relational disorder." The truth
about "wrong relationships" is on this page. The terrible evil that
would arise from saying that a "wrong relationship" is caused by
some sort of chemical imbalance in the brain -- that evil is
immeasurable. If you go this psychiatric direction, you will, I
guarantee, have wrong relationships and more illness!
TIME MAGAZINE
September 16, 2002
Vol. 160 No. 12
I'm O.K.
You're O.K. We're Not O.K.
Some psychiatrists want to start treating
"relational disorders." Are they nuts?
BYWALTER
KIRN
There is still only one way to be sane —
enjoy your friends, family, faith and job — but every year there are
new ways to be crazy. Like the automobile industry, which once sold
only sedans and station wagons but now offers endless variations on
the SUV (including two versions of the Hummer), the American
Psychiatric Association now has an illness for almost every
lifestyle. The current edition of its professional bible, the
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders IV, contains —
among scores of other diagnoses — a long list of specialized labels
for a condition that was known in my grandmother's era as the
jitters, including Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder, Social
Phobia, Panic Disorder with Agoraphobia, and Panic Disorder Without
Agoraphobia.
Given so many maladies to choose from, a person who can't find
at least one of his problems covered somewhere in DSM-IV must have
something really wrong with him. Unless, that is, his problem is
someone else — a child, mate or parent, say. Until recently, being
driven mad by others and driving others mad was known as life. It
didn't have a name — at least not a medically sanctioned name that
could be listed on insurance forms and used in advertisements for
pharmaceuticals.
The big news in psychiatry is that this may change. Some
powerful practitioners, according to a story that broke in the
Washington Post last week, are lobbying for official recognition of
a new and controversial category of mental illness: Relational
Disorders. Dr. Michael First, associate professor of psychiatry at
Columbia University and one of the principal figures behind the
push, puts the case for the novel diagnosis this way: "There is
evidence that relationships and how people interact in particular
relationships can be disordered in a way that's very similar to
mental disorders."
That people can make each other nuts — and sometimes
seriously, violently nuts — is not a new discovery. My grandmother
knew it, and my grandpa too, which is why he kept his power tools in
the basement. Still, scientific protocol demands that whenever
doctors set out to repackage a perennial human sorrow as a modern,
billable disease, they have to act as if they are on to something
big. How else could chronic sleepiness have become Primary
Hypersomnia?
The process of designating new mental disorders by pretending
to misplace everyday experience and then trip over it in the
laboratory is easy to satirize, but it has high stakes. If
Relational Disorders exist (let's say they do) and doctors or drugs
can make them go away (let's say they can, though heaven only
knows), then a DSM listing is required or the insurance companies
won't pay for treatment. Even with the listing, they are sure to
grumble about it. Shelling out for even one-twentieth of the cases
of "persistent and painful feelings, behavior and perception
involving two or more partners in an important personal
relationship" (the proposed definition) could drain the Treasury in
about 24 hours.
What makes the proposed diagnosis controversial, aside from
the possibility that it could be applied to every living American,
is the question of how the "patient" will be defined. A relationship
can't make an appointment. Only the individuals in it can. But if
only one of them shows up at the clinic, how do you effectively
treat the relationship? And if they both come, what if only one
feels poorly? For First and his like-minded colleagues, these are
sticky issues but solvable ones. They point out that psychiatry
deals every day with similar dilemmas and ambiguities. "To me," says
First, "the bottom line is treating people. If this is something
that can improve people's lives, that's worth the conceptual
murkiness."
When a psychiatric disorder makes its debut, patients and
doctors join the ticket line first, but eventually the lawyers queue
up too. That's when the trouble tends to start. For America's
attorneys, who might be said to specialize already in Relational
Disorders — in creating them and making them worse — the prospect of
such a fuzzy diagnosis must look like a row of cherries on a slot
machine. By clouding the notion of personal responsibility even as
the classification opens up vast new realms of mutual and collective
liability, RD, as it will inevitably be referred to on daytime-TV
talk shows, may generate even more in legal fees and damage awards
than in insurance reimbursements.
Whatever happens, it won't happen right away. DSM-V will not
be published before 2010, giving us plenty of time to ponder the
wisdom of formally recognizing a new disease that people can prevent
only by living alone in locked rooms that don't have telephones.
Maybe the first Relational Disorder that we should be concerned
about is the one between psychiatry and the public.
This
web site is a breath
of fresh air in a world of pollution.
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